17.11.07
Calling Sarah Asay, aka the baby whisperer...
Please rescue me! If any of you do not know this girl, she is the sleep/ baby schedule guru. She has a three year old who still takes a nap every day and an 18 month old who still takes two LONG naps every day. And they go to bed early. And unlike my child, they do not nurse to sleep. I say anyone who can accomplish this feat is MAGIC. Sarah, please come to my house and whip us into shape. Ever since Max started teething, he stopped sleeping through the night! I swore I would not be the mom who let her kid nurse to sleep and feed in the middle of the night at 9 MONTHS. Ridiculous! I am praying that he will finish cutting the second top tooth and go back to sleeping. WHy do I feel like I am not going to be that lucky? Blog friends- what should I do? I totally need to break some bad habits here, I think part of why he is waking up is 1- he is used to the routine and the feeding, he's not really hungry 2- he needs the boob to calm down and fall asleep again when he wakes up. I completely blame myself. For some reason, you can read every book on the shelf and still make the mistakes they warn you about over and over again. WHy is that? And no, the binkie does not work. Why I ever let him get off that thing is beyond me. Lay it on me people! Tips, tricks, habit breakers, let me hear it! BECCA (nurse/pal who knows EVERYTHING about all things baby/pregnancy), I am talking to you too!
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Oh dear. It will all be fine! Decide what you want to accomplish/change and just be really consistent. He is definitely old enough that you could let him cry back to sleep in the middle of the night- I would start there. Then move to the naps- try keeping him awake while he eats until you lay him down for the nap. Then work on going to bed for the night without the boob. You are such a good mom, you need to stop stressing. Just take it one little step at a time, and like I said...be consistent:)
ReplyDeletemy thoughts are, he's just 9 months old. Ethan tried to sleep through the night at 5 months but we had to stop it because it affected my production, if your still relying on him nursing more than he's eatting solid food you probably want to get up at least once to help keep your supply up! We kept having problems with ethan we'd get him to sleep and an hour later he'd wake up screaming and didn't want to fall back asleep. We had to be mean and let him cry. it was horrible but after the first couple nights he cried less and less. until now he sleeps about 10-12 hrs a night and takes a 2 hr nap during the day. It's HARD listining to them cry but if you know they are just doing it because they want you to rock them or nurse even if they shouldn't be hungry then it's probably time to let him cry a bit. I know some say you should and some say you shouldn't but that's what my parents did with my bro and that's what I did with ethan and it works. as for getting him to not nurse to fall asleep, well maybe at nap time give him one of the soft mouth sippy cup (they are cheap at walmart I think they are nuby brand and the tops are clear) then just fill it with milk and give him that. alot of times with teething they just want something to chew or suck on for a way to feel better. so maybe if you got him on a sippy cup insead of nursing to sleep then it might help? I cant pretend I'm a pro but it worked for us. Ethan sill has to have his sippy full of milk to fall asleep and RARELY for nap. I was still getting up with ethan once a night until the day he was off the breast because i wanted to keep the milk up, after he was past it I pumped for a bit more and gave him the breast milk in his sippy and then slowly started to mix reg whole milk with breast milk until i one day removed the whole milk. they suggest breastfeeding until at least 1 years old, but i still gave breast milk (pumped) until he was 14-15 months. I don't know if I helped but just letting you know what we did.
ReplyDeleteI am no expert, I just am lucky with kids who like to sleep. They don't sleep in which I think is why Luc still takes a nap, getting up at 5 or 6 wears on you by 1pm I even need a nap. Teething sucks there is no way around it. I have found that the teething tablets work for some reason, they have been life savers for me.
ReplyDeleteI agree with your friends, you have to let him cry it out. He is just used to you coming in and getting him when he cries so he does it. As long as it is not a painful cry let him go. If you do go in his room, do not pick him up or talk to him. Just cover him back up turn his music back on or whatever and leave. But give him atleast 10 minutes first. It will seem like forever to you but he has to learn to do it for himself.
And just for the record, you have not made a mistake, it is the hardest thing to let your baby cry despite what you know, you are a mother and it is your job to take care of your kids. I feel for you girl. Call me anytime. Good luck!!
ilove you jess! it is soo hard being a mom sometimes! BUT, Jess YOU are a great mom, and you do an excellent job taking care of sweet Max. I think you wonderful friends gave you excellent advise, and the big key of consistancy in really the answer. This is just part of the phase of Max's teeting stage and he may be the type of boy that will have it super tough time of it...darn it. But it makes it tough on all you dear sweet ones...I wish I had some other awesome great advise for you, but all you kids were pretty great sleepers. I do thank you for that sweetie! Just know I love, love, love you all so much (epecially mister Max!) Dad and I are soo keeping you and Max in our prayers...lots and lots of LOVE. Mom
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